Honest wedding confessions no one admits

Hi guys I told you about the fun things I did in my wedding so I thought why not write about the mistakes I made at my wedding because people rarely talks about mistakes and try to portray everything as picture perfect which is always not true. In reality, weddings are not just about magic, they’re about learning. Looking back, I don’t feel ashamed about my mistakes. I feel softness towards the girl I was, trying to make everyone happy and everything perfect.

Here are the real mistakes I made at my wedding not to scare future brides, but to make them feel seen.

I paid thousands for basic mehndi: 

Even though I chose a very basic, half-hand pattern, I was charged a full “bridal mehndi” price just because I was the bride. I realised that sometimes, vendors don’t charge for the work, they charge for the word bride and I wish I had questioned it more.

My “Herbal Haldi” was not herbal at all: I bought haldi from very famous store promising pure, herbal haldi. What I actually got was something low quality and not even the proper yellow colour. It didn’t feel fresh, pure or special.

I Booked Only One Photographer: This is one of my biggest regrets. I booked just one photographer and missed so many candid moments, emotional family pictures, behind-the-scenes memories and small beautiful moments that I can never get back.

I Booked the Venue at the Last Moment: Because of late planning, my options were limited. Although the venue itself was good, I wasn’t fully satisfied with the pricing. With better planning and more time, I believe I could have found a venue that offered better value for the same budget and aligned more closely with what I truly wanted.

I Bought Makeup I Never Used: I don’t really wear makeup in daily life, yet I bought expensive products thinking I would use them later. Most of it is still lying untouched.

I overestimated how often I’d wear my wedding outfits: Even though I didn’t buy very heavy sarees or suits, I still find it hard to wear them regularly. Most of my wedding outfits now only come out for very special occasions. It made me realise that even “practical” bridal shopping can sometimes be more than what we actually use in real life.

I planned “Advanced” events no one understood: Some of my wedding concepts were very modern and unique therefore many old-school relatives couldn’t connect with them. That energy and excitement got lost in translation.

I printed too many wedding cards: I overestimated the number of guests and got extra cards printed, most of which were never used.

I invited people out of formality: I called college friends I hadn’t spoken to in years, thinking they “should” be invited. Many didn’t come, and I wasted so much emotional energy chasing them.

We had a rude, rigid pandit: The pandit we hired didn’t understand our vision of a small, intimate, slightly modern wedding. He was rigid, harsh and added stress instead of calm vibes.

I didn’t eat at my own wedding: Between rituals, photos, guests and chaos, I barely ate. I feel like I completely missed enjoying my own wedding food.

I spent too much time on bridesmaid gifts: I put so much effort, time, and money into handmade return gifts for my bridesmaids. Hunting things, packaging them with love but they weren’t appreciated the way I thought they would be.

We showed our pre-wedding film at the wrong time: We played our pre-wedding video after the engagement when most guests had already eaten and left. Many weren’t interested, and that moment felt wasted.

I didn’t do a proper “First Look”: I didn’t do a special first-look moment with my groom or my family. I missed that emotional, intimate moment that I now realise I really wanted.

I didn’t tackle the venue manager properly: At the end, I was too emotionally exhausted to deal firmly with the venue manager. He overcharged us, and my parents paid without argument.

I ruined our first dance by overthinking: Because of panic, anxiety, and chaos at the venue, our first dance didn’t go the way we had imagined. I wasn’t in the moment, I was in my head.

More Mistakes I Realised Later

• I didn’t assign one person to handle vendors

• I trusted verbal promises instead of written contracts

• I tried to do everything myself instead of asking for help

• I forgot to sit quietly with my partner for 5 minutes

• I didn’t set clear boundaries with relatives

• I didn’t keep extra time for rituals

• I didn’t click enough pictures with my parents, sister and family

But instead of all the above mistakes I still enjoyed my wedding, I loved the way it came out just like my vision a soft happy fairytale wedding. I just want to give this message to all bride-to-be that: 

"You will make mistakes. And that’s okay.

Your wedding doesn’t have to be flawless.

It has to be real, warm, emotional and yours".

And even with all my mistakes, I don’t hate my wedding. I still love it because it was my beginning. And sometimes, imperfect beginnings make the most beautiful stories.

With this I end my blog and hope it helps others in one or another way..till than bye and see you soon with some new fun stuff.

Sayonara🌸

Till next time

Yours friendly Vet

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